So what do you write in a wedding card?

When a friend or family member decides to tie the knot, and you’re invited to the event, it’s customary to get the newlyweds a present – usually off of their wedding registry. It could be anything from a coffee maker to a set of fine china. No matter what gift you get, it’s appropriate to attach a congratulations card to the present expressing your well wishes. Sure, congratulations cards already have a pre-written message in them, but it’s best to include your own handwritten note to personalize the card. However, it’s not always clear what you should write. Follow these tips for writing a sincere wedding card message:

Choose the right stationery
The wedding card you choose should match the overall feel of the wedding. If you’re unsure if the big day is going to be formal, religious, casual, etc., you can look to the wedding invitations for inspiration. Wedding invitations are typically a sneak peak into the style and theme of the nuptials.

Always address both the bride and groom
You may have only had a relationship with the bride or the groom, not both. Even so, you should always address your card to both of them. It’s rude to only speak to one person. After all, they both got married.

Avoid certain topics
There are specific topics that shouldn’t be mentioned in your personalized message. For example, don’t talk about any past ex-boyfriends or girlfriends – rehashing the previous relationships isn’t appropriate considering the nature of this event. You may also want to stay away from mentioning babies in the card. So many people approach newlyweds about the idea of starting a family immediately, which can be awkward and may put unnecessary pressure on them. It’s better just to avoid it entirely. Keep your message appropriate as well – other people could be reading this card, including the bride’s grandmother. Instead, just focus on their new life as a couple.

So … what can you write in congratulations cards for newlyweds? You may choose to touch on your friendship, how honored you were to be invited to this special day or even recall when you first met the couple. Here are a few examples:

Dear [include both of their names],

Example 1: I’m so grateful that we were able to remain friends throughout the years, and I couldn’t be happier that you both found each other.

Example 2: I can remember the first day I met the two of you. We were both on the same delayed plane at the airport, and after that day, I knew we would stay in touch.

Example 3: I’m honored you and [their spouse] thought to include me in this memorable occasion. I only wish you both the very best for the future.

Example 4: Here’s to wishing you a lifetime of joy, happiness and memories. Congratulations on tying the knot!

Include a quote
If you’re still not sure what to write, rely on someone else’s words. There are so many wonderful quotes about love you can use that will help express your happiness about the couple’s big day. Here are a few of my favorites:

“There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.” – Ronald Reagan

“The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they’re right if you love to be with them all the time.” – Julia Child

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” – Dr. Seuss

Finish the card by signing your name and sealing it in an envelope. Your well wishes mean more than you know.