Dear Ms. Cards Etiquette
Christmas isn’t even here yet, and I’m already dreading writing thank you notes. I’m a horrible procrastinator, and thank you cards are one of my least favorite things to do EVER. I’d rather send emails, but I know that’s probably not OK. Is there anything I can do to make thank you notes more fun?
Dreading in Dearmont
I really do feel for you … thank you notes used to be my least favorite thing to do in the world, except washing dishes! But there are some ways to make it more bearable, and maybe even fun. Here are a few
- Have a Thank You party! If you’re doing thank you’s with your family, get a bunch of cards and paper and crayons together at the table, make some hot chocolate (and maybe drinks for the adults), some favorite snacks, and write them all together. Young kids can draw pictures, parents can add captions, and before you know it, they’ll all be done! It’ll also give you a great opportunity to chat about your Christmas, and come up with new ideas for the holidays next year!
- If you’re not a family person, you can still have a thank you note party with friends. Put together some favorite drinks and hors d’oeuvres, gather some lovely stationery, and have a get-together. You can compare notes on who’s relatives were most fun (or most embarassing), and generally have a good time.
- DON’T PROCRASTINATE! You know (as well as I do!) that the longer you leave something, the worse it seems. So sit down the weekend after the holidays, set aside a lazy afternoon with some favorite treats (music, wine, chocolate … whatever you like), and get those cards done sooner, rather than later.
- Reward yourself. The day you pick to do your thank you’s, plan something nice for yourself later in the evening: a dinner at a favorite restaurant; a small shopping trip; going out for a movie (or staying in to re-watch a favorite); whatever special treat would help motivate you.
Knowing you have something nice waiting at the end of the session will keep your spirits up.
- Break it up. If you have a lot of thank you notes to write, don’t try to do them all in one marathon session. Organize your cards ahead of time, and split them into small groups. Do close family members one day, spend an hour or two writing notes to friends the next day. If you can only bring yourself to write two notes a day, spend a week writing them a little at a time.
Believe me, if I eventually learned to write my thank you’s properly and promptly, anyone can!